If you grew up in the 80s, or even worse, went to high
school in the 80s, you were probably obsessed with having Tretorns, a Beaver
Canoe hoodie, you wore 2 Polo shirts at a time (collars up, no doubt) and you’d
be happy with anything from Cotton Ginny. Why? Because everyone was obsessed with these brands. And at that age, mostly
everyone (except the trailblazers listening to the Smiths with a safety pin in
their ear) wanted to fit it, blend in, and just be like everyone else.
Since there’s nothing new under the sun, why do we expect
anything different from our own kids? I remember those days, laying out my
girls’ outfits the night before school, my own creations I carefully thought out
(and by thought out I mean whatever was clean). All those great hand me downs,
like the skirts with the bows, the tops with the lace, who cared? Certainly not
my oblivious children. But oh, oh how things were going to change.
I KNEW IT WAS COMING
I will always remember that dreaded day, picking up my then
8 year old from the weekend spent with her “older” cousin. As soon as we were
alone, she looked at me (bows and lace staring at me, while mocking her),
and said “Ya, I think I want an Ivivva top”. My heart either skipped a beat or
I choked on my tongue, can’t quite remember which. But there it was, cat out of
bag, Pandora’s Box ajar. There was no going back, now that she “knew”. Knew
there were great brands out there, wonderful brands that you couldn’t live
without. Brands we snuck into the house to avoid our husbands saying “don’t you
have like 50 pairs of those already?”. It was her time. Everyone can remember
their first time, when they “knew”.
But now that us 80s kids have grown up and
have our own families, and all that comes with it: mortgages, car payments,
bills (did I mention bills?), buying clothes for our kids can be quite
stressful and a strain on the pocket book. And there seems to be an unspoken
sentiment among parents today to encourage our kids to be independent,
cultivate their own style, wear what makes them happy. I find this utter nonsense since kids change their style as fast as
they can download an app, or get tired of something within the same week of
falling in love with it, or grow so fast pants turn to capris overnight. What’s a parent to do? I find it hard to justify buying the expensive
brand name clothes that cost a little extra when I know they'll be tossed aside before I even get
the Visa bill!
I GIVE IN...SOMETIMES
But I get it. It’s soooo hard, when you’re attracted to the
more “desirable” brands, I mean…who isn’t? And I get that my kids want the
Ivivva wardrobe and the Hunter boots, I really do. I remember being 12,
pleading with my mother to let me keep the $100 Polo jacket I bought with my
paper route money (she made me return it by the by…and good for her, $100 back
then is like $1,000 now). But if I can just remember, for even a minute, what
it was like to want that Polo jacket (did I even realize a men’s small wasn’t
flattering for a 12 year old girl? Why did we wear everything so big back then?).
Anyway, at the end of the day, I can certainly empathize with my kids a bit. I
do treat them to those overpriced “must haves” once in a while. Sometimes, my
husband’s move is to make them pay half for the odd piece, he thinks it will
instill value and appreciation for the finer things in life. And maybe, just
maybe, it won’t end up, in a ball, on their bedroom floor. A girl can dream.
Andrea
